Looking for a transformation in your performance?
For real personal change management, your self-belief may need to be your first port of call.
Want more business success? Take a look at your own beliefs about how likely you are to achieve.
For example, just because you failed to get a promotion once, it does NOT have to mean that you are not good enough for promotion now. Similarly, because someone once put doubts in your mind about your appearance, it should not mean that your confidence in your own style becomes impaired. If it’s not helpful to you to believe their opinion, then do not take it on board. Perhaps you messed up a presentation once. Does that mean that you are useless at presentations? No it doesn’t. It only means that if you CHOOSE to believe it.
Remember we also used to believe that the world was flat, that a mile couldn’t be run in under 4 minutes and that mobile communication devices would only ever belong on the Enterprise with Captain Kirk. These were only opinions, not facts. The key to success is distinguishing between the two.
Look around at how people behave who already have what you want. Not only do they believe they can have it, (‘it’ being confidence, performance, success, money, a great relationship, happiness etc.), they also believe they deserve it. Do you?
You may say that their belief is based on evidence which you don’t have. What about if you were to say instead, I don’t have that evidence YET”? That tiny word ‘yet’ on the end is of massive importance. It makes a world of difference to your available opportunities, outlook and willingness to have a go. However, whilst you’re playing it safe and not trying, you’ll never get the evidence you need.
Apparently, one of Einstein’s core beliefs was that the world is a friendly place. What would be different for you if you believed this too? What new actions would you take? What would you believe you were now capable of, knowing that it is safe for you to try?
I challenge you now to believe something different about the world or yourself and look for evidence to back it up. You may be surprised at what happens. Beliefs are rather like statistics. We can use them to prove whatever we want.